Is it the fault of Christian parents that their children do not become Christians?
Many Christian parents have been heartbroken because their children, once they reach an age of maturity and show no interest in Christian things continuing in unbelief. The parents often do much soul searching and ask themselves the question, ‘Where did we go wrong?’
There is no doubt that it is the responsibility of parents to teach their children the Scriptures and seek to win them for Christ. However, when parents have done all they can it may still be that the children do not become believers. Some helpful points on this subject are as follows:-
Ensure that children are not exposed to unhelpful worldly influences. Sometimes for instance the children’s friends will involve them in things, which would not be helpful. Rather than just negatively forbidding their involvement, seek to replace the thing with something honourable but equally enjoyable for them and bring their friends into your home and the Christian testimony it bears.
Of course, in the final analysis, whatever we may do or not do, the matter of becoming a Christian rests with the child. There can be no forcing of the issue. Remember that many faithful parents in the Scriptures, experienced heartache because their children did not become believers, e.g., Adam and Eve, Isaac and Rebekah, Eli, Samuel, David, etc. Remember that salvation is not something that we can pass on automatically. It is entirely a matter of God’s grace. What we must provide is the positive and conducive environment for our children to grow up in, that will be totally supportive of the work of God in their lives.
Finally we have to leave the issue with Him, ‘who worketh all things after the counsel of his own will’, Eph 1. 11, knowing that ‘all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose‘, Rom 8. 28.